My Funeral



A very peculiar thing began creeping into my brain a few months ago–something a person just shy of 50 years young, don’t think about much unless they are terminally ill or just received a death sentence. Yes, the big D, and I don’t mean divorce. Death started creeping up on me when I was living at my dad’s house, and my husband and I were frantically looking for a home—somewhere to put down roots. A place to call our own. One night I dreamed and heard a voice say, “I know where you are going to move, “Cemetery Road.” Now, I had been very sick there and hospitalized five times, and lost the use of my right arm for a bit. I wasn’t sleeping well, and I was often short of breath. The dream gave me the creeps and made me realize I had to move. We landed in an apartment and are still waiting for a “Then suddenly.” But it seems after that; death began to be something I pondered and not in a dark way but just a way that made me think more about our travels here.
Who would I want to speak at my funeral? What type of music or band would I like to have? Could I have a buffet and drinks and laughter, dancing, and storytelling at my wake? Why not. And what would people say about my few and difficult years here? Did my life matter? Did it have worth? Did it help change or encourage any? Have you ever pondered your life in this manner?
Later on, the thoughts began to snowball until one evening, almost a year later, I am sitting at my sister’s, and her daughter, who has a fantastic voice, by the way, begins to blurt out a song that I treasure. I suddenly say, “Can you sing that and play the piano at my funeral?” She looks at me like the odd nut job I am and says, “I guess, but you’re not dying.” And that’s when my spiritual light bulb went off.

Yes, death is something we ALL must do while we are alive if we want to live forever. Read that last line again and let it sink in. Suddenly, I had this thought, “Just go ahead and die. Get it over with.” Trust me, in the long run–it will save us from many things and many troubles.
If you desire to do ministry for Him, then even better to die and get it over with. They all had to die. When one of the disciple’s mother’s requested for her son to sit at Yeshua’s right hand, he answered like this,
“You people don’t know what you are asking. Can you drink the cup that I am about to drink?” They said to him, “We can.” He said to them, “Yes, you will drink my cup” (Matthew 20:22-23).
They drank it, alright. Peter was crucified upside down. Paul was crucified. They were beheaded, boiled, stabbed, stoned, and Bartholomew was skinned alive and then beheaded. I could keep going, but to wrap this up, none of them were spared. No binding and yelling at Satan, no angels came and rescued John the Baptist. No bright lights and escaping of the cup they all drank. But I am talking about a different death.
What if we all died to our fleshly wants and needs. Yes, what if we Died to the dreams we have, and the visions that you and I have dreamed from our hearts–Die to pride—riches and material wealth—die to accolades of men and titles–die to fame and esteem–die to winning the “I won more souls than you contest”—it never happened.
Die to your wishes of fame and fortune and all the rulership of being king. Die to control, addiction and backbiting and being right and being religious and politically brilliant and just go ahead and die as Jesus/Yeshua did after fasting 40 days and being tempted in EVERY AREA. What if, for a moment, we were only left with what we had obtained in the spirit?
I know some of you are thinking, what a horrible blog post.
Anyone who was ever anybody great died to live. Joseph did. Moses did. King David did. Ruth did.
What’s the best way to commit suicide? We can die the quickest way by laying on the altar and becoming a living sacrifice. I had a dream last year that involved my mother, who has passed away in the natural. She and my father and I were at a booth in a café, and while we were there, I raised my leg on the table, pulled up my pant leg, and showed them my leg, which had hair the length of a horse’s mane. ‘I said, look how long I have been fasting.” Now, this has not happened yet, but I feel it coming. I’ve fasted in the past. I used to fast three days a week when I was in deliverance ministry and had to face tortured souls and demonic spirits. I have fasted this year and even made it seven days, but we both know this is something we do in secret. I am bringing it up to teach a little. What do we fast for? Job promotions, success, material possessions, a growing ministry, fame, fortune, harmony, great blessings on our seed, and so forth, or to meet the adversary in the desert and be tempted in all points and have our flesh die?
I feel the need to just go ahead like Isaac, who was 37 years old. Yeshua was 33 years old when he went up a hill with his dad to be a sacrifice. Add the numbers together, and you get 70. Seventy bulls were sacrificed for the 70 nations during Sukkot. Add one on the 8th day for Israel. Isaac said, “father, I think you better tie me down because what if I out of instinct, raise up or move and the knife does not go in.”
“They triumphed over him by the blood of the Lamb and by the word of their testimony; they did not love their lives so much as to shrink from death” (Revelations 12:11).
Shrink from death? Oh, there is power there to stand and face death until the last little twinge of pride is buried. The last little twig is snapped.
“Truly, truly, I tell you, unless a kernel of wheat falls to the ground and dies, it remains only a seed; but if it dies, it bears much fruit” (John 12:24).
Many unique qualities reside in dead people. Dead people don’t care about what they look like or vanity. Dead people don’t care about their Ph.D.’s. Dead people don’t get offended. You can kick a deceased person, and they won’t even rear up and kick you back. Dead people don’t gossip, and they aren’t prideful. They have no desire to build a kingdom here. They’re dead.
Have you ever answered this question as they did? “Then I heard the voice of the Lord saying, “Whom shall I send? And who will go for us?” And I said, “Here am I. Send me!” Isaiah 6:8.
If so, then He is going to do surgery on our hearts. He will get in there and examine every piece of the stinking thing. My husband was praying the other day, and he said, “Father, you know our hearts.” I heard the Spirit say, “And that is the problem.”
Just let us get angry or hurt, cut off in traffic, left on hold, accused wrongfully, of judged on our job, and see what comes out of our mouth. From the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks.
So I was thinking about this funeral party, and I have decided I’d rather die here than die forever. I’d rather face death now than lose the glory and everlasting life. I’d rather let the surgeon get His scalpel out and begin cutting away the flesh. Because I am looking forward to the day I rise up, and although I know every knee will bow, I do not want to hear him say, “Go away, I never knew you.”
So I thought about “that day” when we will rise up at the last Trump and about one of the songs I requested my niece to sing. I’ve tweaked the words a bit by Andra Day. I hope you like it.
I leave you with this question: What do you need to die to today?
“You’re broken down and tired.
Of living life on a merry-go-round
And you can’t find the fighter.
But I see HIM in you, so the Holy Spirit’s gonna walk it out.
And move mountains
We gonna walk it out.
And move mountains
And I’ll rise up
I’ll rise like the day.
I’ll rise up
I’ll rise unafraid
I’ll rise up
And I’ll do it a thousand times again.
And I’ll rise up
High like the waves
I’ll rise up
In spite of the GRAVE
I’ll rise up
And I’ll do it a thousand times again.
For you [4x]
When the silence isn’t quiet
And it feels like it’s getting hard to breathe.
And I know you feel like dying, and dying brings ultimate peace.
But I promise we’ll humbly bow at HIS feet.
And move mountains
Bring it to HIS feet.
And move mountains
And I’ll rise up
I’ll rise like the day.
I’ll rise up
I’ll rise unafraid
I’ll rise up
And I’ll do it a thousand times again!


Photo by wicker willow coffins


  • K. Gallagher Posted December 16, 2016 6:01 am

    LOVE this post! Is that morbid, lol? Die to live or live to die; I pick the former, but it is a very real battle with my flesh! (:

    Also, your dream intrigued me. Was the hair on your leg really like a horses mane or was that writer’s exaggeration? Fasting is taming the beast/flesh within, so it wasn’t just about the length of the fast, but your flesh submitting to the Spirit. And it was your lower leg– your walk and your beast of burden (flesh)– there was noticeable change! Amen! I’m always amazed by the metaphors that God uses in our dreams. (:

  • Tekoa Posted December 16, 2016 12:58 pm

    I really need to call you or answer your last email! I need to find you on Facebook and add you to my dream and interpretation site.
    I fell asleep last night reading your newest blog on submitting.
    Getting ready to grab a cup and finish up.
    I have some crazy dreams. Love the fact that the Creator of all things would give me riddles in my sleep!!! How cool is that? My last dreams involved a couple thiefs stealing this rare food I made at a restaurant I owned. My husband was helping bag and box Togo items. He kept saying you can’t get this food very many places. It’s exotic– people are loving it. A then saw a large truck was pulling up and going through the back door stealing it– the second dream- came back to back. while I was taking a to -go order over the phone and my hubby was boxing and bagging the food, I saw a man open a register and steal all the cash out of the drawer.
    I woke up and said Father do you want me to open a restaurant? I love to cook but I couldn’t do that with my disability.”
    He said, you already make food that’s rare, your books. Your husband bags the food- makes the covers and packages, and there is theft going on.”
    I called Amazon the other day and uncovered some things, but I’m going to look for a local publisher.
    Anyways, LOVE all the food you make K! ALL!

  • Tekoa Posted December 16, 2016 3:19 pm

    I got out my dream book and I was mistaken on the date. It seems I dreamed this in 2014, but yes, it looked draped over like a horses mane. Probably 5 inches or so? Im really bad with math. lol

  • Marilyn Posted February 2, 2017 6:33 pm

    Not a day has gone by that I have not thought about death. Perhaps because I lost my favorite people so early in childhood. Or perhaps I began volunteering in nursing homes at age 14 – was a nurse aide for five years and a registered nurse for 37-years. I have seen death, smelled death, shared death, grieved and mourned death with my beloved patients, their families and friends. I used to attend all their funerals but it got to be too much . . . I know what my obit will say, I know where my body will lie but the real me will be far beyond this world (which is not my home.)
    Bless you in your work and may you bring new life to an old fear.

    • Tekoa Posted February 2, 2017 7:18 pm

      My beautiful friend and cousin. I know you have seen death up close and personal and what a blessing it must have been to have you for a caregiver in someone’s last days– hours– I can’t think of a sweeter soul to wipe a brow or speak a kind word. I love you dearly!

  • Marilyn Posted February 21, 2017 6:02 pm

    I love you too! I love your books! Wow! I wish I could help promote them but because I didn’t buy them on Amazon or Good reads, I am not allowed to review them. Too bad, I would give them 5 stars. Thank you for being your wonderful self!

  • Lisa Sargent Posted June 1, 2017 3:29 pm


    • Tekoa Posted June 1, 2017 5:04 pm

      Thanks for the letter. I’ll be sending something for your dad soon. Blessings Lisa.

    • Tekoa Posted June 1, 2017 5:05 pm

      If any of these blogs or books have blessed you please invite your friends on facebook to like my pages. Thanks.

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